Marriage is a match made in heaven. However, marriage is growing up to be a common regret these days for most people. Many tend to think they could have chosen a better partner or should have waited longer or even married their ex-partner instead. Just like the global pandemic, marital problems and divorce are spreading and increasing with each passing day.
In our closely-knit society, it is rare for individuals to choose the partner they prefer to marry. Most times, their family does it for them. On the other hand, not all couples who go through a relationship before marrying each other are well off too. Something goes amiss after a few years of marriage or after having a couple of kids. The secret to a successful and happy married life still a mystery.
People all over the world go through marital problems and frustrations. There is more to a long-lasting relationship than sex, children or even adjusting with your partner.
Therefore, here is a list of things for you to think about in your relationship. Following these will not guarantee you a long and happy married life but not following these will surely lead to a failed marriage.
1) Understand Your Partner – Everyone has their own sets of beliefs, ideas, opinions and perspectives. Your partner’s beliefs are as important as yours are. So, the more you understand how your partner thinks and feels at things in your everyday lives, the more you adapt and vice versa. Couples, who understand their partners’ preferences in everything from food, leisure habits and even awkward silences, tend to grow a strong relationship over time. So, take your time to understand your spouse.
2) Appreciate Your Partner, Especially for the Little Things – whenever your spouse jumps in to help you with something, even when you didn’t need any, accept it and say thanks with a kind smile. This lets them know that you always have an open place for them to fill in. The long years of marriage can make people take each other for granted. But when you change that habit of indifference or anger over interruption into appreciation, the bond between the both of you grows even stronger.
3) Be Honest With Your Partner – whatever it is, have an open talk with your spouse. You need to share everything with them, openly. You are both in this together. This means you need to face anything that comes in your way, together. So, for the both of you to function effectively, both of you need to pitch in everything you know. Hiding things that happened or lying about them can cause you more harm than being open about them.
4) Respect Every Aspect Of Your Partner – Not just mutual respect for each other’s thoughts, but also privacy. Even though as a couple you function as a single unit, there are times and things that you need to do alone. The same applies for your partner. Most fights start when you peek into something they don’t want you to see. If it is important enough, your spouse would have shown you.
5) Take Good Care Of Your Appearance As Well – Many people tend to forget about their physique after marriage and especially after having kids. Yes, it is tiresome taking care of the children. There comes a point when your children begin taking care of themselves and that is when you realise you should’ve taken care of your physique all along. Most times when you have a regular routine of grooming your appearance, your partner gets motivated to do the same. When the both of you stay fit, healthy and attractive to each other, it will work wonders in your relationship every day.
There are many other things that you’ve to concentrate on for a happy marriage. The list goes long but it all comes down to how much you and your partner are willing to contribute and compromise for your marriage.
Having a healthy relationship is a dream for many. Our Psychiatrists at Serene Life Hospital are more than ready to provide marital counselling to couples, who want to strengthen their relationships. From the start of our centre in Chennai, we have helped many families to bond once more and to lead a happy married life.
